It is interesting to observe “spiritual tiptoeing“ in some individuals. They excuse ignorant behaviour of others, avoid confrontation at all cost, and are extremely accommodating and empathic. Per se there is nothing wrong with empathy, but I can‘t help but notice the tendency in spiritualists to avoid calling a spade a spade, avoid judging someone‘s wrong actions and avoid asserting healthy boundaries.
But our ability to “confrontation with integrity” is needed if we come across someone who is rude or abusive in speech and action, who ignores agreements and acts out of disrespect, deceit or haughtiness. It is not pious to excuse ignorant behaviour with the concept of oneness and eternal understanding, thereby constantly compromising reasonable boundaries and ethics. And neither is it wise, because it furthers the other person‘s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility or under-achievement.
Focusing on the good potential in another combined with the attitude of love‘n light fluffiness is exactly how excusers and deniers will remain codependent and people pleasing (opportunistic). Sometimes there is simply no way to avoid upsetting someone or holding people accountable.
In social media communities it tends to be easier to get people‘s likes when posting pleasantries instead of statements that reflect critical thinking. But the time is over for creating a sense of identity based on other people and their approval. It‘s simply not sustainable. Especially in view of the current critical situation on the planet, we are called to re-member our true selves.
And it might not be all pretty what we discover at first. Blind spots et all. We might also rock the boat and upset others if we begin to shift and unfold our true natural selves. That‘s ok. We breathe, stay kind and continue anyway. Embodying more and more of our original essence. Well-grounded, heart-centred and with discernment.