As it is unfolding now, and it can be witnessed everywhere, men and women have started to re-member their original essence, reactivate their codes and balance their masculine / feminine aspects, heal their bodies and souls, revise their perceptions about themselves and life, and step out of concepts and conventions.
Patriarchial patterns and programs had their grip on women AND men. Control issues power games and servant / tyrant archetypes have been part of the social architecture across generations. Men and women were enmeshed, entrapped and enslaved in the sticky web of parasitic patriarchial entities.
As far as women are concerned, they have been under some sort of spell for far too long. Far too long have they been tolerating fragmented and emotionally illiterate male partners, far too long have they been objectifying themselves (and men), far too long have they been in denial of their emotional wounds and emotional needs, were in amnesia about their true selves and healthy boundaries.
Nobody is to blame though. I would call for compassion for both, men and women, as both have been mislead, manipulated and abused over thousands of years. Reality has been inverted and reversed, original lifestreams turned inside out and upside down.
Healing is required on a massive scale. Innocence, creativity, dignity and completion are to be recalled. And healing will come naturally from the spell being broken, when some of the ugliest institutions holding the spell come down (such as Holly/Bollywood, the porn industry, mainstream fashion and music industry, mass media and TV).
Liberation requires individuals also to let go of dysfunctional, even if comfortable and addictive, behaviour patterns. And to let go of conventions.
Women and their tendency to please and fawn. Helping without being asked, interfering by holding a princess / nurse / saviour / martyr archetype. Pushing and trying to change their man, instead of letting him choose his own path of liberation and purpose.
Men and their tendency to freeze or flight, when confronted or something is off. With archetypes of the eternal acquiescing boy and immature entitled prince. Being absent and unavailable, physically, energetically, mentally and emotionally. Contributing just the bare minimum to a relationship.
Trauma Healing is crucial and key, if we want to evolve as society. On both sides, in men and women, we have the traumatised, abused, dissociated and fragmented, silenced and yet tantrum throwing and grieving inner children who wait to be acknowledged and re-integrated.
In view of the above and related to personal relationships, it is important to realise that ambivalence in your partner, is not about you. And because you are not the cause, you can never be the cure. It is the unresolved old pain and the past stories that still live in the other, and in many ways, are controlling their choices, thoughts, words and actions.
How to get out of the labyrinth of misunderstandings and entanglements? You can not change the other but you can observe and help yourself to remember who you really are, and what you really need. With your newly expanded self-awareness, you can practice new communication and new choices, and eventually your outer world will reflect the new evolved You – the mature king / queen.