As it is unfolding now, and it can be witnessed everywhere, men and women have started to re-member their original essence, reactivate their codes and balance their masculine / feminine aspects, heal their body systems and revise their perceptions about themselves and life.
An honest review is needed, useful – and sobering. As far as women are concerned, they have been under some sort of spell for far too long. Far too long have they been tolerating fragmented and emotionally illiterate male partners, far too long have they been objectifying themselves (and men), far too long have they been in denial of their emotional wounds and emotional needs, were in amnesia about their true selves and healthy boundaries.
Nobody is to blame though. I would call for compassion for both, men and women, as both have been mislead, manipulated and abused over thousands of years. Reality has been inverted and reversed, original lifestreams turned inside out and upside down.
Healing is required on a massive scale. Innocence, creativity, dignity and completion are to be recalled. And healing will come from the spell being broken, when some of the ugliest institutions holding the spell come down, such as Holly/Bollywood, the porn industry, mainstream fashion and music industry, mass media, TV.
It also requires individuals to let go of dysfunctional, even if comfortable and addictive, behaviour patterns.
Women and their tendency to please and fawn. Helping without being asked, interfering by holding a nurse / saviour / martyr archetype. Pushing and trying to change their man, instead of letting him choose his own path of liberation and purpose.
Men and their tendency to freeze or flight, when confronted or something is off. With archetypes of the eternal acquiescing boy and immature entitled prince. Being absent and unavailable, physically, energetically, mentally and emotionally. Contributing just the bare minimum to a relationship.
Since I was there once myself I can see where people are coming from as well as where they are stuck as I was. On both sides, in men and women, we have the fragmented, silenced and yet tantrum throwing and grieving inner children who wait to be acknowledged and re-integrated.
So it is important to realise that ambivalence in the other, is not about you. And because you are not the cause, you can never be the cure. It is the unresolved old pain and past stories that still live in the other, and in many ways, are controlling their choices, thoughts, words and actions.
How to get out of the labyrinth of misunderstandings and entanglements? You can not change the other but you can help yourself to remember who you really are, what you really need and what you deserve. With your newly expanded heart and self-awareness, you will find new paths in your own life. And while you can not change the world, at least YOUR outer world will reflect that.